We would like to share about our journey and what God has done in our lives through Life Group.
Before we joined Life Church, as Christians we regularly attended church services on Sundays. However, we entered a season where we felt that going to church was just a mere obligation, and different things in life took our priority away from God, Himself. Our lives were just going through the motions. Our days were packed with a busy schedule. Inevitably, we felt tired, lost without purpose, our spiritual lives were neglected, our souls were empty, and it slowly took a toll on our marriage.
“..we felt tired, lost without purpose, our spiritual lives were neglected, our souls were empty, and it slowly took a toll on our marriage.”
3 years ago, in December 2015, through a divine appointment, we came to Life Church after an invitation from a friend. Not long after that we started to join Life Group in February 2016. At the time, the lesson was based on Alpha Marriage, exactly what we needed! For a young family like us, with 2 kids aged 6 and 2 then, going to Life Group was something that unimaginable and very challenging, since we had so many doubts in our minds, who will look after our kids, can we cope with additional schedule to attend another activities, and so on and so on… However, it is quite a surprise and encouragement for us to see fellow members with young kids, attending life group with such hunger and joy, not as burden or obligation. They understand the struggle of young families and with their own life situation, they are still willing to welcome and journey together with new members with loads of issues like us. This is something that we thought would be impossible to do, raising a young family as well as having a heart to look after other families. It seems too good to be true, and it left a very deep impression in our hearts.
“This is something that we thought would be impossible to do, raising a young family as well as having a heart to look after other families..”
I would like to share how we’ve grown since going to Vineyard Life Group. I used to feel alone in this marriage and I used to put all of my self-worth and satisfaction from work. Work became priority for me and work became my identity. Through Alpha Marriage course and discussions in our Life Group, I felt God was revealing to me that what I was doing was not right. I was very grateful that one of the “mandate” from Alpha Marriage was carving out time in the middle of our busy lives and dedicating it for Marriage Time. We started doing that, and in the beginning it was hard because we were addressing years and years of resentment and we often ended up fighting more. I said it was hard but it actually wasn’t because over time God helped both my husband and I to change from the inside. Once the resentment is out, we no longer see each other as enemies and we started appreciating each other again. I know God has helped me because in the past it was almost impossible to do what the Bible says in Ephesians 5: 22 “Wives, respect your husband” but now it’s only hard half of the time.
Another issue I was struggling with was with my attitude towards work. This year we are learning what brokenness is and what does it mean to be broken. Again, God was revealing to me that because work has given me satisfaction, work has become my idol and also my pride. Even with that knowledge in my head plus with the support and prayers of my Life Group, it still took me 2 years to finally learn the lesson. My Life Group knows my struggle and my Life Group was also there when I shared about how heartbroken I am (at the end) when what I’ve been working so hard for amounted to nothing and when my pride was being grounded to powder. At that time, I know that God has not abandoned me and His grace was there through the support of our Life Group.
“Reflecting back to our journey, we started with a quest to save our marriage, and we found God along the way.”
Reflecting back to our journey, we started with a quest to save our marriage, and we found God along the way. We are so grateful that God is not giving up on us. We are so grateful that our Life Group did not put any judgement on us and being patient with us. We are so grateful to have such a wonderful Life Group leaders, who despite of their own limitations and own circumstances, they cared for us, spent time with us, listened to our issues, and shared tears in prayers for us. We know that our Life Group is certainly not perfect. If it was, I’m sorry because it is now not perfect anymore since we joined 3 years ago. But whatever situation it was, our Life Group is more than enough for us.
Today, we would humbly say, if we can stand in front of you, it is also because of God’s work in our lives through the Life Group we are in. What would our life be, without Life Group? What would your life be, without Life Group?